Post Date December, 03 2023
Q:
At the age of 40, I fell in love with a post-90s generation who was more than 20 years younger than me. After being discovered by my husband for a year, he couldn't bear to ask for a divorce, so I divorced.
My little boyfriend is still a student, very naive, without financial resources, and with poor family conditions, I pay for everything I go out to play. After the divorce, my boyfriend and I rented a house near our house and swaggered around. Many acquaintances have seen us and said that this has a bad impact. But I don't feel at all that it's my own ability.
Sweetness is fleeting. After getting together, I found out that my boyfriend and I had so many irreconcilable conflicts: he didn't care about hygiene, didn't like brushing his teeth at night, could wear a piece of clothing for a few days, became lazy, didn't pay attention to frugality, and had very bad habits. Moreover, I think I should pay for it because he doesn't make money yet and doesn't understand the world at all. When I celebrated my birthday, he didn't remember either. He remembered all of his family's birthdays, but gradually I was disappointed. I thought of my ex husband's kindness and had the idea of a reunion.
I sent a message to my ex husband, but he flatly refused. I have to keep sending messages, and he basically doesn't reply. I scolded him for always getting stuck in the past, he said it was just getting stuck in the past. At this moment, my ex husband was introduced and met a divorced woman. The two of them established a relationship and heard from their daughter that something good was about to happen.
What should I do now? I feel very sorry for my daughter now and I really want to return to my ex husband's side and have a family reunion. What should I do?
Answer:
At the age of forty, you are still not mature enough. You can ignore your daughter for the sake of your little boyfriend, and now you regret it and want to turn around. Although the prodigal son will not exchange money, your ex husband has clearly rejected you and is ready to start a new life.
If you really want to turn around, you should consider two aspects: first, will you not cheat again after turning around? 2、 After turning around, will he treat you as well as before? As the saying goes, a good horse never returns. Why do you want to eat back grass? If your little boyfriend makes you very satisfied, will you still look back? I'm sure not. So, if you want to turn around, it's not how much you love your ex husband, it's just because you ran into a wall outside and had nowhere to go.
Please clarify your motivation and correct your mindset. Even if he doesn't reply to you, you are constantly sending messages. This is futile work and there is suspicion of entanglement. It should not be. Why don't you calmly invite him for a friendly exchange and see if there is any possibility of redemption.
