Disconnection often leads to anger due to one party's negligence or concern. When faced with conflict and both parties have emotions, no one can persuade anyone.
"If both parties are not so familiar, everything may be easy to talk about. However, precisely because both parties are too familiar and ignore each other's most basic needs, disconnection at this time may be the best reflection on each other's feelings.". So what should we do during disconnection?
First: Think about the emotional state between you. What's the problem
Sometimes we need to learn to reflect while walking, and think more about where the problem between you is, before we can find good ideas and methods for solving the problem in the next step.
The contradiction is actually a run-in and adjustment period for both parties. Think about each other's strengths and weaknesses. The next step is how to effectively communicate with each other, and if two people can get along with each other, there won't be so many problems and requirements.
Think about where your emotional problems are, and then take targeted measures and suggestions to solve the problems between you.
Second: Understand empathy and don't always complain
Many people often complain about life because of pain. In fact, sometimes life is not as bad as we think. If you work hard enough, you are entitled to enjoy the happiness and beauty in the future.
To understand how to empathize with your own life, nothing in this life can truly make you suffer. The reason for suffering is that your mind is not broad enough. If you are tolerant enough, you have the ability to resolve conflicts.
If you are kind enough, you will solve some misfortunes. Many hardships in life are often the tempering process leading to happiness. Only by biting your teeth and walking past can you see the beautiful side of life. To understand empathy and consider from the other person's perspective, you will understand that not complaining is life, and being able to see through is life.
Third: Pick up your interests and hobbies
Think about why you appreciated each other in the first place, often because there were some resonance between you. If you have ever had an interest or hobby, you still need to maintain this curiosity now.
Don't lose yourself after having love, then you really have nothing after losing love. Good love often makes both people better. And bad love can make you not grow up.
Therefore, you should learn to be curious about new things, which will enable you to have greater energy to improve yourself, and there will be more common topics between you. Don't always focus on trivial matters without yourself. At this time, take advantage of disconnection, pick up your interests and hobbies, and bring back the person you once were, so that your life can regain its former youth and vitality.
Disconnection often occurs because we don't understand each other enough or tolerate each other enough. Through disconnection, we all need to learn to reflect on ourselves. Don't be too egotistical because of love, nor too forgetful because of love. Anything that goes too far is not worth it.
Even in love, it is necessary to understand and tolerate, and to take a step back. In this way, you can leave the most beautiful love around.