After being raped by a married scumbag, he insisted on me being his woman, and after spending more than a year together, he ignored me

A married man raped me and then insisted on me being his woman, saying he would marry me. I found my boyfriend and he also messed me up, letting me spend more than a year with him. Now he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. What do you think I should do? Please find a solution, thank you.

reply:

1. Faced with rape by a married scumbag, you should have called the police as soon as possible, but instead of protecting yourself in a timely manner, you were defeated by your own weakness. Isn't this quite a sad thing. Girls should never be so soft in their ears, let alone let themselves be so weak and deceitful, otherwise they will only become the target of being bullied.

2. Girls must have self-esteem and self-love, try to avoid chatting up or interacting with married men, reduce frivolity and selfish thoughts, and feel more secure. Don't be led by a man's nose, let alone brainwashed by those tough and soft guys. When must you have your own opinions and principles, so that you won't be fooled.

3. Girl, it's already like this, don't you know what to do? Are you confused, or is being bullied not enough? If you truly love him and cannot do without him, ask him to divorce you and marry you; If you have no choice in the face of his coldness and abandonment, why are we still flirting here? Stay away from the scumbag, the faster you escape, the luckier you will be. Because in my opinion, this man has been planning to sleep on you for nothing since the moment he brutally raped you, and you really hope he can give you results! Silly girl, listen to Brother Shan. Go away. You can have Dim sum for thousands of years. Don't be cheated by men again.

Reader's Letter:

Hello, my boyfriend and I were together in May last year. Before we were together, I had a relationship with a married man, and he also knew a little about it. Later, when we were together, the three of us were colleagues. I couldn't help but keep in touch with that man and had work related communication, but we didn't have any other conversations. Later on, he thought we had a relationship, so he couldn't bear the pressure, We broke up, and I tried my best to keep them, but they didn't end up together. Last month, I learned that he had a girlfriend, so I sent him a text message wishing him happiness. However, he called me back and said he wanted to be with me. He still loves me, and we still love each other. He said he broke up with that woman, so I went to play with him for three days. He said he wanted me to go home and pick up my luggage with him. When I came back, I told my family about it, but my parents opposed it. I had a lot of trouble with him at home because I wanted to be with him. A few days ago, he told me to wait for him at home, and when he resolved his situation, he came to pick me up at home, but he clearly said he had already broken up with that woman, I asked him what was going on, and he said that the woman didn't want to share it with him. Now I'm not sure. I still want to be with him, but I'm afraid we won't fall in love as much as before, and I don't know what role I am. My friends say that if he solves it, we'll be together again. Otherwise, my identity won't be honored. I don't know how long he can solve it, and I don't know if we'll be happy. If we're together, will he hold onto my past events, And he is also quite good-tempered and honest. I want you to analyze and help me. What should I do?

reply:

Hello, thank you for trusting Brother Shan. You have had a time when you were not clear enough about your relationship, and you also let your boyfriend know that the dramatic complex between you was actually caused by your lack of purity in your relationship. Your boyfriend may have a bad mentality now, or he may love you but can't get around your unclean past, or he may come back to seek revenge for the psychological imbalance you caused him after having a girlfriend. In short, he will have a contradictory mood entangled in his heart. I think the more honest a man is on the surface, the more he may think inside. Your friend is right. You must make sure that your 'boyfriend' completely severs ties with that woman before accepting her. In addition, he may also feel uneasy because you have dealings with your colleague, and you should try to avoid suspicion as much as possible. To be honest, in your situation, I don't think the chances of happiness for the two of you getting together are very high. A man who is not open-minded enough will definitely use your previous experiences to tell the truth in the future. You need to be prepared for this kind of mentality.