A letter from a 31 year old divorced woman to women all over the world, every sentence piercing her heart

This is an article written by a married woman who got married at the age of 31. Actually, whether you treat others well or not depends on whether you have a certain standard in your heart. Saying so much just hopes that everyone can treat you better.

1. Girls still need to strive to excel, from ability to appearance.

There is an advertising slogan that says: A serious woman is the most beautiful. Everyone has the right to choose their own way of life, but they must be serious. To oneself; For work; For life. Even if such a woman is not naturally beautiful, she still has a confident and calm beauty, and only such beauty can she confront time.

2. A good man has requirements for himself, but no requirements for women.

It is better for men who muddle through their work but have many demands on their girlfriends to stay away. Such men have the highest probability of becoming venomous men after marriage. Our sisters' minimum requirement for getting married is to be respected by our own husbands, and men who fuss about their wives are not good marriage partners.

3. Getting married mainly depends on character and personality.

Similar personalities, values of life, and values of money are the best guarantees for married life. Different personalities make it difficult for two people to talk about it on a daily basis. Even if they are universally recognized as a golden couple, they cannot get married. After all, you spend most of your life with them, knowing the warmth and coldness.

4. A man who initially said he was not worthy of you will never be worthy of you in the future.

For some outstanding girls, they will always encounter men who seem to have great potential. You change yourself for them and give everything, but they say that you treat them too well, and their (education, money, ability, status, appearance, etc.) don't match you. The examples of many sisters around me prove that a man who lacks confidence and can only be socialized with you through submission will not treat you well in the future. Your excellence will only make him feel more inferior.

5. Before entrusting for life, you should take a look at his family.

It's not about how much money his family has, it's about whether they have a harmonious family and care about comity.

A family where a man beats a woman and everyone still doesn't pay attention, pretending not to see it, will never care about your life or death in the future. Every family has its flaws, so it's important to ask your boyfriend's attitude. A man who is blindly foolish and loyal has limited respect for his wife in his heart.

6. Men who are tight to themselves and also tight to their girlfriends have no interest.

A man who is loose with himself and tight with his girlfriend must be selfish and the last to marry.

Money is the thing that best reveals the essence and emotions of a man. Sisters falling in love is not about money, but if they make you feel wrong about money, you should think carefully about whether they are suitable for you. In future marriages, there are many places where people need to sacrifice, and such men will be the first to run away.

7. A man who beats someone cannot have it. If he is beaten once, he must break up.

A man who is promiscuous and steps on a few boats cannot have it. Once he discovers it, he must break up. As the old saying goes, it's a constant interruption that leads to chaos.

8. In love, girls should have their own bottom line.

Never give up your dignity, insult your parents, or abandon your job just because you love him. A good relationship, marriage must be a win-win situation, not a unilateral sacrifice and fulfillment.

9. When encountering a man you like, you must bravely pursue him.

Single love is the most hurtful and also the most fruitless.

10. Speak clearly.

If you have any thoughts, speak up and don't let men guess. Being able to communicate will make your life happier.

11. Don't act virtuous in front of a man from the beginning.

To be honest, men are more impressed with what they give. The more he does for you, the more he gives, the more he yearns for you and cannot let go. On the contrary, he feels less about your efforts and gains. Many ruthless men have the most virtuous and selfless woman who silently gives.

12. If it breaks, it will break.

Everyone has the possibility of making mistakes, but if they make mistakes again and again, they have their own problems. Many sisters endure living with a man who is not kind to them because they have been with him for N years, he is my first man, I have had N children for him, I have given for..., and I am already... years old. In the end, it is themselves who are injured.

13. Love for the sake of love, not for a beautiful wedding or a luxurious life in your dreams.

All happiness comes with a price, but don't let some costs ruin your life. Young girls are easily deceived by vanity, but in a real marriage, the man who can cover you with a blanket to be kicked off at night is the one who is worth entrusting for a lifetime.

14. Cherish the man who truly loves you and treats you well.

A good man will treat you in a way that is truly beneficial to you, not condoning you, nor restraining you in the name of loving you. Such men are rare, and if you encounter them, you must cherish them. Young men often love their girlfriends in a pure way. They may not be mature, but their love is real. Don't give up lightly. Only after experiencing more in society will you know how valuable a true heart is.

If you love him, accept him now, don't imagine his change.

If he can make changes, of course it's best. Otherwise, just think about it and see if you can accept it. Every flaw before marriage will be magnified after marriage. He smokes, and you love him, so try to accept it. There are too few men who quit smoking after marriage. The same goes for other drawbacks.

16. Everything is in time.

There are many good men in this world who are struggling to find their partner. Not all men only love virgins, nor do they care about your previous marriage, nor do they care about your age and education. In many good marriages, what men love is their woman's foolish, innocent, and round figure, or the mole on the corner of their mouth. Even if you are injured, be brave enough to love like Jin Sanshun, as if you have not been hurt. Only by opening yourself up first can the world let you go.

No matter what situation you are in in your marriage at this moment, please do not arbitrarily owe those who are still in the trivial matters of firewood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, and tea. The crowd is crowded, don't disappoint your meeting.