Good men don't fight with women, that's right. But sometimes, it is often her initiative. It is not because they are brutal girlfriends, but because men and women are affected by emotions and have different control over anger.
This is based on facts. To take the most obvious example, men and women often accuse each other for trivial matters, and then turn into a war of words... After that, the man often first eliminates his anger, starts to think for the other side, and then feels impatient, and even reflects on himself.
So he went to apologize to her and said he was willing to make up. She accepted him when she saw that he had offered to show his kindness. It was better to break tears and smile, or to remain angry. But at this time, if you think she is completely normal, it is a big mistake. At this time, you will feel that you have the upper hand again: "After the dispute has subsided, she is not listening to me". At this time, is it even possible to have a comforting sex... Unfortunately, this is also what she thinks (just not the second part). Why did you take advantage of it! The originally slightly calm mood suddenly and inevitably erupted, which strongly surprised you, "wasn't it good just now? How could it happen all at once?"
The problem lies in a sudden, which is also a characteristic of women's emotions. Under her delicate and beautiful appearance, the undercurrent is turbulent and uncontrollable for a long time. Why would she be trapped in the battle and unable to extricate herself? Why did she hold on to your boss? (This situation will also happen to you, of course, but it is much less.) It is not because she no longer wants you, nor does she deliberately find fault. The scientific explanation is that her brain's limbic nervous system and autonomic nervous system react faster or slower.
It is not mysterious at all. American philosopher and psychologist William James (1842-1910) described the relationship between emotion generation and brain control. He believes that when the human body is stimulated by the outside world, it will make corresponding emotional reactions, and the brain can accurately recognize all these reactions: anger, joy, excitement, fear, etc. Once the brain reads a certain emotion, it will immediately send instructions to the human body, and the organs and body surface will react: the heart rate is accelerated, the breath is rapid, the erection... and the response of the organs and body surface is completely controlled by the autonomic nervous system.
So William James came up with an inexplicable theory. He believes that emotions are not determined by the brain, but by the reactions of human organs and body surface. The reason is that the brain processes information so fast that it does not have enough time to confirm what changes have taken place in the mood. This task can only be handed to the body organs for recognition and confirmation.
Then why didn't she give up after you confessed to her? That's because the brain reacts much faster than other organs in the body. Suppose you are walking on the sidewalk, and suddenly you are trampled by the person behind you. You are furious, but when you turn around and see a blind man, you must stop talking. In just two seconds, an idea suddenly rose and disappeared.
Another example is when playing play badminton, the brain will have similar thoughts every second: what should he do when he returns to the diagonal line to the left; Right, what if he turns back? What's more amazing is that the brain can not only think so fast, but also recognize various emotions at the same speed. In contrast, the response of other organs is much slower. If we compare the reaction speed of the brain to that of the famous BMW, then the reaction speed of the body organs is a jumbo truck, and its acceleration takes a long time. In this way, the idea/desire can flash through, but the adrenaline can't move in and out freely. It needs a process from secretion to regression, as well as body reactions such as heart rate acceleration and sweat gland secretion.
Therefore, when you roared at her, her cerebral cortex actually recorded these unwise actions of you, and at the same time, you reacted quickly: against you, this time you must be repaired to be obedient! Later, this emotion was slowly reflected on her through nerves, such as breathless, sniffle, and stars in her eyes
And when you compensate, you are normal. Don't think she is normal. Because of the difference in reaction speed between men and women, she was still angry, not to mention that her body had returned to the state before her anger. At this time, the adrenaline in her body is still at a high level, and the blood in her blood vessels is still surging. At this time, you should still pay attention to the fact that your attitude must be very, very sincere, because if you let her see a trace of your hippie smile, a hug between you and someone will suddenly become very clear in her mind, which will undoubtedly be a tragedy
Due to the different reaction speed of the automatic nervous system, the conflict between men and women is often difficult to reconcile. The most important performance is orgasm. You come and go faster than her. So after a storm, she always hopes you can give some more comfort, but you always turn around and snore. Although no similar scientific research has been done, it is generally believed that all organs of your body, including reproductive organs, respond faster than hers.
So what should I do if I quarrel? Take a deep breath, count to ten silently, endure for a while, calm and calm, take a step back and open the sky. In addition, it is suggested that you two make a rule. When quarreling, you must sit, because the secretion of adrenaline in the body is slower in the sitting state than in the standing state. Also, after you read this article, let her have a look and let her know what the speed difference is. Once both sides understand the process of anger, it may be easier to find a way to calm down.
Look, good men also have to fight with women. It's just a kind of "intellectual fight". Don't learn fast and forget fast - man's nature.