Post Date December, 03 2023
"We sympathize with the poor not only because they are poor, but also because they have no right to 'give', just as we sympathize with an unattractive man not only because of his ugliness, but also because he has been deprived of the opportunity to be praised.". However, in fact, these two types of people are the closest to happiness, because they know how to make every choice in life with a normal mindset, and they also know how to grasp their inner cultivation in rational thinking. They strive to improve these not only to repair those visible defects, but also to enjoy life in a healthier and more positive way than others. Today, Feiwen wants to talk to everyone about the cultivation of men.
First of all, a cultured man must be a man who knows how to have fun. There may be many men who disagree with this, thinking that it's only a woman's business, and it goes without saying that women understand how to have fun in order to better understand men and enjoy happiness, but in fact, men should understand how to have fun. Of course, interest requires some talent, but the cultivation of the day after tomorrow is also indispensable. To be able to tell some jokes and stimulate the atmosphere, everyone expects you to sing well when you can, and to have fun when you play. When a woman is unhappy, it can drive him to be happy and coax her to be happy. For a cultured man, interest can be noble or somewhat vulgar, but it cannot be absent.
A man's good culture should also include learning to respect others, even close people. "Neither your spouse nor the person who loves you should casually use your advantages to trample on the dignity of others, but should respect the love they give.". "You know, if you don't give others respect, they won't give you face. As we often say, respect is given by others, and face is lost by yourself.". A cultured man will never let the things in his heart and face hurt him.
Of course, the cultivation of a man should also include tolerance and forgiveness. A man without a broad mind cannot achieve much cultivation, and it is because of tolerance that you forgive others. In fact, to forgive others is to accept the reality and forget the pain, because everything is settled, which is good for yourself. Moreover, forgiveness is a transcendence of cognition. It is a kind of generosity and detachment; There is a saying that goes like this: "If I forgive you, I forgive myself. How can a man who transcends cognition, accepts reality, and forgives himself be a man without cultivation and happiness?"?
Moreover, a man's cultivation should also be reflected in maturity. An immature man cannot achieve much in cultivation. "Maturity is not about having a beard full of dregs or wrinkles, it's about having a convincing and satisfying attitude and way of treating people and things.". Mature men are those who make women seem like they want to rely on, and they are completely willing and committed. Maturity is a vague concept, but it is always reflected. If you don't have it, you cannot force it. If you insist on affectation, it will only make you laugh and be sneered at.
A cultured man should also be enjoyable. "If a man is too bad at his image, I don't think his culture will be much better, because it's also an emanation from the inside out.". Just like that sentence: There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women. The same goes for men. There are no bad men in the world, only lazy men. I'm not emphasizing how gorgeous a person's appearance should be, but at least don't make people feel sick. Because external comfort is also a kind of charm and a persistent persistence. If there is no cultivation that complements each other, it may also be casting pearls before swine.
A cultured man should also know how to appreciate others. The process of appreciating others is like tasting and discovering one's own project. If one cannot fully release one's vision, one will also stagnate. For this reason, we should be more open-minded to accept and appreciate others, and timely not stingy with your praise, so that others will also have a good impression of you, and give you as many points as possible.
In short, the cultivation of a man is to understand the balance of wisdom between gain and loss, and to know not to deliberately judge everything. It will exude infinite charm over time and the baptism of time. Therefore, a good man should know how to persist and improve his cultivation. Conversely, if a man can perform well in cultivation, even if he is not the best of good men, he is not at least a bad man.
(Intern Editor: Zhao Minqing)
