One night stand is a psychological illness
Li Shuang loves his wife very much, and in her eyes, Li Shuang is definitely a good husband. However, the wife accidentally discovered that during the five years after marriage, Li Shuang had multiple "one night stands", and in anger, she filed for divorce. Li Shuang's job involves frequent business trips, and every time he travels, he can't help but have relationships with unfamiliar women, but he doesn't know their names and never contacts them again.
American sociologist John defined 'one night stand' as sexual behavior based on human animal sexual attraction, which neglects the norms that lovers should follow when interacting, such as personality, quality, and cultivation. In recent years, the number of cases of marital breakdown caused by "one night stand" has been increasing year by year.
The addiction to 'one night stand' is a psychological disorder, where people often have a regular lifestyle but lack color. They experience a sense of excitement and freshness from a one night stand. But they are still very attached to the marital relationship. The essential difference between "one night stand" and prostitution is that the former is for the dual satisfaction of sexual and psychological desires, while the latter is for the satisfaction of one party's sexual desires, which is essentially a monetary transaction. Therefore, if the party who experiences a one night stand actively faces their psychological problems and seeks solutions, it is a betrayal that can be forgiven.
Third parties breed like viruses
In 2009, with the popularity of the TV drama "Dwelling Narrowly", the phenomenon of "third parties" became the focus of discussion.
In recent years, in a large number of film, television and literary works, concepts such as "third party" and "extramarital affairs" have attracted people's attention in various forms and also collided with people's concepts. Therefore, on the internet, netizens refer to "third parties" as "junior".
The meaning of "third party" in Chinese law is a person who disregards traditional concepts of marriage and family, arbitrarily invades another person's family based on personal preferences, until they break up another person's family. Therefore, compared to a one night stand, a "third party" has more meaning of actively attacking and seducing. However, under the negative impact of some film and television works, people not only take it for granted but also have some sympathy for the role of the "third party" that should have been criticized and criticized. The theories of "becoming a regular junior" and "having three virtues as a junior" are quite marketable.
In fact, marriage is a belief. Resisting third parties is similar to the body's resistance to virus invasion. The virus exists for a long time, and what needs to be improved is one's own resistance, in order to eliminate the soil where the virus grows. The best way to resist is first to rely on one's own self-control, and second to rely on the emotions and trust of both parties.
Domestic violence cannot be tolerated once
In 2002, the popularity of the TV drama "Don't Talk to Strangers" focused the attention of the whole country on domestic violence. According to the 1994 White Paper on the Status of Women in China released by the State Council, approximately 400000 families in China disintegrate each year, of which 25% are caused by domestic violence. It is worth noting that behind the violence, divorce is almost always mentioned.
In fact, domestic violence is an ancient issue, but even in the West, people began to pay attention to and study this issue only in the 1960s. This is because domestic violence is not simply a violent crime, it is always intertwined with people's ideological concepts, family ethical values, and traditional social culture. Domestic violence not only causes physical and mental pain to victims, but also manifests as a serious violation of the human rights of vulnerable groups in the family. Experts believe that once there is violence in a couple, the victim should not take it for granted. This is just an accident, let's endure it this time. Seek assistance as soon as possible and actively seek solutions, including divorce.
(Intern Editor: Cai Junyi)